Monday, December 12, 2011


Self check: Where are you writing from? Are you pursuing the answers to your own questions? Are you after the great ideas? Are you connecting what  you learn to your own experiences? Are you expanding your own understanding? Are you pondering what you learn? Are you recognizing your feelings becoming thoughts; your thoughts becoming ideas? 

Here are some quotes to practice thinking on: 1. "Draw from the past, but do not let your past draw from you." -Teal'c (Stargate)
2. "If you weren't selling this, would you be buying it?" -heard on a CBC radio program
3."For Every Goliath there is a stone." -sign at a Garden Center on Vancouver Island

Share your thoughts....

Sunday, July 25, 2010

The challenges of making a difference.


Hi, Ladies,

Here is an Oliver De Mille paper for thought and discussion.
Hope your summer is going great!
Keep reading, thinking, talking, writing!
Linda


The Leadership Alienation Principle

Posted on 2009-09-14 by Oliver DeMille


alienated-274x177-custom The Leadership Alienation PrincipleA friend recently told me how hard it is to teach leadership education in her new town.

“It was so easy back in California,” she said, “we had so many friends doing this and so many activities to choose from. But here in this small Montana town we just don’t have anyone to work with. Nobody likes homeschooling, much less Leadership Education. They alienate us, and it’s almost impossible to stay inspired. We feel so alone.”

That’s hard! And this family isn’t alone.

Another friend, a Buddhist, lives in a mostly Evangelical Christian environment. She ran into the normal challenges of Thomas Jefferson Education, turned to the community for help, didn’t find it, felt frustrated, and blamed it on the differences between her and the community around her. A Catholic friend living in New England called with similar frustrations. He blamed it on the secularized environment. “These people just don’t get it,” he said, “they’re close-minded and intolerant.”

I heard the same message from a Southern Baptist friend who moved into a Mormon community, and the same comments from my own children about the non-home schoolers in our church unit. A Mormon family doing TJEd in Texas said the same thing about the Baptist community. Another friend moved from the South to the West and felt alienated because he was a Democrat surrounded by Republicans.

Upon discussing this, Rachel and I discovered that we had both felt the same in high school: I blamed my alienation from certain groups of kids on the fact that I was overweight, and Rachel blamed hers on the fact that her family moved a lot and she was always the new girl.

This list goes on and on. But amazingly, the similarity in all of these experiences, and dozens of others that people have told me about, is that in each case the problem was the same — the person was feeling alienated from a larger group because he or she was passionate and committed about something the larger group didn’t share.

So when she ran into roadblocks and went looking for a community to help, she found…that she was alone.

I call this the Leadership Alienation Principle. When you come up against challenges, you see many of them rooted in the differences between you and the larger community around you.

isolation-245x159-custom The Leadership Alienation PrinciplePeople who are mission driven tend to look around and feel isolated, misunderstood, misjudged and even criticized because their whole life is lived in the context of an overarching passion. When the people around them don’t identify with this passion, they naturally feel isolated. They use this as an excuse, sometimes as the excuse.

They seldom stop to realize that the real issue is the fact that they are passion driven, mission driven, and their whole life is going to be different than most of the people around them. This naturally causes an “us-them” feeling about anyone who doesn’t share your passion, or disagrees with your deepest views, or is just in a bad mood.

This happens to everyone in the areas of their passion, but for those doing Leadership Education the two hardest areas are “Classics, not Textbooks” and “Inspire, not Require.”

When you get passionate about classics, people often think you are stuck up, elitist, cocky, arrogant. They think this even if you aren’t any of these things, and you have to work four times as hard to be their friend as anyone else.

As for “Inspire, not Require,” this is a problem because the easiest and quickest way to inspire is to get your youth working with a larger peer group that shares their passion for great education. When you can’t find such a group, natural feelings of frustration arise about all these people around you who just don’t get it. You need them, and they don’t seem to care, or worse, you get a sense that they aren’t ever going to accept you into the group.

So, what is the solution? Well, first of all, it helps a lot to realize that this is just plain normal. This is what almost everyone is feeling, or soon will be, in one part of their life or another. So, relax.

But secondly, people you know right now are feeling this about something — and you may be able to help. Look around and see if you are needed, and you will find people reaching out for friendship. See how you can help them, even though it isn’t directly related with your challenges.

Once these two steps are accomplished, you can get started on the third step: Get very clear on what you need to do to build your community, help your family, whatever it is you need to do, and get to work. It’s going to be hard, it’s going to take some time, not everyone will join you at first, or ever, but if it’s your role and your mission then get to work.

Of course, this is easier said than done, but it is a lot easier done than sitting around worrying, feeling isolated, fretting, wishing or whining. If something needs done in your community, and you feel called to do it, get to work.

The truth is, once you do step three, you will naturally proceed to step four: having a lot of fun making a difference.

When you run into Leadership Alienation, follow these steps and success if right around the corner.

For more help with Leadership for Executives and Community Leaders, seewww.thesocialleader.com and www.thecomingaristocracy.com.


Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Mark Twain Quote

“A man’s experiences of life are a book. There was never yet an uninteresting life. Such a thing is an impossibility. Inside of the dullest exterior there is a drama, a comedy and a tragedy. ”

Mark Twain

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Pink by Kathy

PINK

Pink -not my favorite color
Who would think there's
Pink flamingos
Pink pigs
Pink Panther
Pink sunsets
Pink eye
Pink Floyd
Mary Kay's pink Cadillac
Pink is cotton candy and bubble gum
There's baby pink, hot pink, pastel pink
Shades of pink like salmon, coral, fuchsia,
blush, flesh, flush, and rose
Victoria Secret's Pink Selection
Breast Cancer awareness has
everything in pink
If you're healthy, you're in the pink
If you're happy, you're tickled pink
A female office worker is a pink collar
Pink is for baby girls
Pink is a warm color, much softer than red
It denotes love and romance
A pink carnation means "I will never forget you"
Pondering Pink makes me think
My favorite color may be PINK

June 2010 by Kathy Stanford

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Wise Women's Words #1

May 13, 2010

Greetings, Ladies,

Here is a summary of our note chart. You are invited

to add/edit with your comments and add your summary thoughts.

Yours in learning,

Linda

Wise Women’s Words

On thoughts and writing

We begin with thoughts

impressed upon our minds from sensory input;

from what we see, hear, smell, taste and feel,

impressed upon us from random

- or forced - exposure,

or from things to which we choose to attend.

Certain thoughts push forward,

demanding center stage,

for personal practical or emotional reasons.

These thoughts guide our actions,

we write the words that capture them and make them visible

and we are responsible for our words.

As we continue this practice our ‘voice’ or style emerges.

We develop the security to trust

our own thoughts; both written and spoken.

We are empowered to write - and talk - through to the truth.

A short story is what you see when you look out the window. - Mavis Gallant

June 9, 2010 We have decided to create a BLOG as a forum for our growths as writers.

Pink

by Bev Bullis

As I stroll through the isles of brilliantly colored and texture diverse fabrics and imagine the endless possibilities; I am remind of the wonderful possibilities we have to construct our character through obedience to natural laws and correct principles creating a most beautiful fabric with which to build our lives.

I've been involved with sewing clothing out of fabric since was a child. My mother mentored me, then school teachers and peers, now I am a mentor. There is such satisfaction in starting with a length of fabric and creating something comely and useful.

After the material has been cut from a patter and the guides marked, the garment is ready for assembly. The integrity and strength of the seams are of the utmost importance to insure that they will not unravel when washed and worn. One way to secure the seam is to 'pink' it. To pink means a saw edge is cut into the seam allowance leaving some fabric in place while some is removed.

Let's consider the usefulness of this procedure in our lives. In oder for our lives to have the strength of the pink we must carefully decide which of our characteristics we will leave in place and which need to be removed. Strength and integrity of character comes from cutting away remnants of selfishness and keeping the fabric of selflessness.

Just as the pinked edge has positive and negative space side by side so too the character building and character destroying facets of the decisions we make are closely related opposites. As traits of honesty, faithfulness and kindness are woven, dishonesty, unfaithfulness and unkindness must be clipped away. Self mastery comes through and as a result of the pink we apply to our lives.

In applying the pink to our lives we can have a happy, wholesome life that will wear off on others as we love and serve them. Think PINK.